Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Graham Louis Rodger is HERE!

Hi Everyone!
    Graham Louis Rodger is here!  He was born 10/10/12, weighing 7lbs, 15oz, and measuring 20.5 inches long. 

Only hours after I posted last week's update, our lives changed forever.  How ironic that I was writing away about how I couldn't wait for something to happen, and as if the baby gods heard me loud and clear, into labor I went.  A lot happened for us to meet our little man, so here is our story.

Last Tuesday night, 10/9/12, I was watching Dancing with the Stars while David fell asleep on the couch.  Around 1030pm, all of a sudden I felt this ZING of a cramp.  I thought to myself, "whoa, I haven't felt anything like that yet ..." but I didn't think too much of it.


Ten/fifteen minutes later, another ZING.  Now, I wondered, "Oh, this must be what Braxton-Hicks actually feels like".  They say that changing positions, or moving around will stop BH contractions, so I tried that, but it didn't seem to do anything to stop the cramping.

Another ten/fifteen minutes pass, and with it, another cramp.  Now, I was starting to get nervous.  I looked over at Dave, and he was completely passed out on the couch.  I didn't want to tell him what was happening and get him all worked up if it wasn't real, so I figured I would make it through Dancing with the Stars, and would keep track of the time of these ZINGs, should they continue to happen. 

The contractions continued, so around 1130pm, I woke Dave up and said, "lets go to bed".  Then I said, "I don't want to freak you out, but for the past hour, I've been having some really bad cramping pains every 10 minutes or so."  We agreed that if this was labor, that I should try to get some rest because I would need it if we ended up having to go to the hospital.

Dave and Charlie fell asleep in about two seconds, and for the next two hours, I continued to feel the cramping pains.  The only problem, was that they were getting worse.  At 1:30am, I woke Dave up and told him that I was still getting the pains, and that they'd gotten increasingly more painful.  What happened next, solidified the idea for me, that these were real contractions, and that we were going to be having our baby.

All of a sudden, Charlie woke up and came over to me.  He circled around, and laid down, and positioned his head EXACTLY next to my stomach, so that his ear and nose were right near Isabelly.  I was like he could hear and feel what was going on, too.

For the next 4 hours, Dave stayed up with me.  The contractions started to get more frequent, occurring every 5-8 minutes and lasting consistently one minute long.  They were now much more intense.  At one point, I had my back to Dave and he started rubbing my back to help ease the pain.  Very sweet, right?  Well, it was making me nauseous.  Mid-contraction, however, all I could say was, "please ... stop ... touching me ... you're making me SICK!!!" .... to which, Dave just started cracking up laughing!  Here I am, doubled over in pain, and he's laughing at me :)

At around 5:30am, Dave called the on-call doctor to see if we should go to the hospital.  The doctor (not our actual doctor) said that she would normally tell us to wait a little longer, but if we were nervous about rush-hour traffic, that we could head over to the hospital.  We decided that we would go and get in there so that they could at least monitor me and the baby.

We decided to leave, and thank god we did ... because at 6:15am, it took us an HOUR to get from Tewksbury to Winchester Hospital.  On a typical day, there is traffic, but not this bad! Check this out!!  GO FIGURE!!



Every stop-and-go, and every pot-hole seemed to trigger another contraction.  Let me just say, having contractions in the Jeep was NOT easy.  It was horrible, actually. 

We got to the hospital just after 7am, and they took me right into my Labor and Delivery room.  I changed into the wonderfully stylish hospital gown, and got into bed.  Our nurse, Maureen, was fantastic.  She measured me, and I was already about 5 centimeters dilated!   She then said the worst thing she could have probably said to me ... she said, "I'd bet my money to say that you'd probably have this baby by noon time!" Haaaaaaaaaa ... little did she know, that the rest of our day would be quite the opposite!

At around 845/9pm, I received an epidural to help with the pain.  Usually, they send the husband out of the room for this, because watching your wife get a HUGE needle in her spine can be, well, a little hard to watch.  Not for Dave.  This rock star asked if he could stay in the room, and they let him.  He loved watching it!  Maureen helped me get through the insertion of the needle with some holistic breathing techniques, but I will say, it really wasn't as bad as I had imagined!

After the epidural, everything was puppies and flowers!  I took a nap here and there, I finished reading the 3rd Hunger Games book, all the while having contractions that I couldn't feel.

Noon came and went ... 1pm came and went ... 2pm, 3pm, came and went, and we were wondering what was taking so long.  I ended up getting some Pitocin to help move the labor along, and my doctor broke my water.  Once my water was broken, I began to start feeling the contractions, again.  They weren't painful (yet), but I felt some tightening.

At around 430/5pm, I was 10cm and they wanted me to start pushing.  It was hard to know how to push, however, because I didn't have total feeling due to the epidural ... so I wasn't sure if what I was doing was actually working.

Without going into the gory details, feelings began coming back, and soon, I could feel the intense contractions every minute or so.  He had dropped quickly, but seemed stuck and wasn't progressing with each push.  Apparently, his head hadn't turned as he made the decent down the birth canal the way it should have ... so we literally had a square peg/round hole situation going on.  Because of how he was positioned, after each contraction, the pain didn't subside.  I had incredible pain in my right hip/butt, due to the pressure. 

For two hours, I fought, with the help of Dave, my doctor, my nurse, and a nursing student who asked to watch her first birth (poor thing is probably traumatized!!!). I fought with each contraction, to the point where they had to put me on oxygen.  I don't know if it was for me, or for the baby, but I assume it was for both of us. It was scary, but i didn't have any time to worry too much, because the minute I began to think about anything, another contraction came and I had to push.

After being up for about 32 hours, and not having anything to eat, I was completely out of fight.  I had no energy, and I felt like my pushes were not resulting in anything.  The competitive side of me said, "keep going, everyone does this", but I knew it wasn't working.  We all decided that it was time to head in for a C-Section.

Of course, Dave wanted to watch the C-Section (crazy person).  Luckily, the medication they gave me kicked in, and I didn't feel anything other than pushing/pulling pressure as they worked.  He was so lodged in my pelvis from the pushing, however, that they couldn't pull him out easily.  They spent a few minutes working to push him back up into my stomach to dislodge him before they could bring him into our world.

When they got him out, I was being worked on, and they worked to clean him up and check his vitals.  What they noticed was that he had fluid stuck in his lungs. This is apparently common for C-Section babies, but it meant that he had to spend the night in the Special Care Nursery.  It did allow us to get some rest, though, which was very needed. Here he is in the Special Care Nursery, all wired up:



The next day, he had coughed up the fluid, and he was doing much better.  For the next few days, with the help from the nursing staff, and Dave, we learned so much about our guy.  We did run into another hiccup, however.

After a couple of days, we noticed his color changing.  He became jaundiced, and had to spend another night away from us.  They put him in a tanning-bed-looking thing, and brought him into me only for feedings.  Luckily, however, it was only another night-long event.  The next day, he was looking much better, and we haven't had any issues since! Here he is getting a little sun tan:



On Sunday afternoon, we brought Graham home to meet his brother, Charlie.  Charlie is AWESOME with him.  He is so interested in our little addition, and is constantly giving him kisses and laying next to him.  Our family is together and happier than ever!!

Since we've been home, things have been great.  I was really nervous to leave the hospital and be home without my staff of nurses there to help.  Dave and I have been managing through the long nights, and we are learning how Graham sleeps best. 

Through everything, I think this has brought Dave and I closer together, as well.  We are so amazed at this little guy, and can't stop looking at him, and feeling grateful for one other.  If possible, I think Graham has brought us a new found respect for the other, and we are being more considerate than ever before.  For now, we are spending our time together as a family, and I'm excited for what this new chapter will bring. 

Thanks to all of you for coming along for the ride ... this last 9+ months had some highs and lows, and I knowing you were all there to read about it, helped me get through it ... and helped me to keep my sanity, in many ways! So thank you ... and here are some more pictures to enjoy!!






 



Tuesday, October 9, 2012

39 Weeks - Tick Tock, Tick Tock!

Hi All,
    39+ weeks, here, and one side of me is growing (literally), more and more impatient, while an equally as influential side of me is really enjoying these last few days working from home in a nice, quiet house :)  All that is about to change dramatically, I know, so I figure, as uncomfortable and immobile as I am, I should at least try to enjoy it for as long as I can!

This past week has been interesting.  If it were even possible, I feel like I have hit a point where I can do almost nothing on my own.  A lot of you got a kick out of the picture of Dave helping me take my toenail polish off last week, but thank god for him!  I literally cannot reach my toes.  Where in recent posts I commented on it getting more and more difficult to reach my feet, I now can BARELY put my socks and shoes on ... and if I accomplish actually reaching my feet, it comes with a side of some serious kicking, poking, and cramping from my tummy. I guess Bob doesn't like it either.

I am happy to say that we are about 99% complete with the nursery!  There are two walls that we are looking for the perfect decorations for, but other than that, we are done! I promise to post pictues next week for you all to see ...unless we have more, exciting news to discuss, of course! ;)

I can say ... that this baby already has more clothes than Dave :) ahahah!  Of all of the wonderful clothes and gifts we have received, I'd like to share with you one of the funniest gifts we received:


Simple and harmless looking, right?  It's called ... a 'Pee-Pee Tee-Pee'.  No joke.  The point is to cover Bob when we change him so that he doesn't spray everywhere.  haaaaaaa!!! A little cuter than a spare diaper or burp cloth, huh?  Sooo funny!

I am still having trouble at night with my apparent snoring.  I say apparent, because I'm starting to wonder if it's truly me who is causing all of the nighttime raucous. I submit for the jury, Exhibit A (you'll need to turn your volume way up) :



So ... who is the culprit?  It's definitely not me since I recorded the video ... so that leaves one of these two:



The old man snore on the video clip is .... drum roll please .... CHARLIE!  Yes!  HE IS THE ONE who is snoring.  So ... I am convinced that it is Charlie who is waking up Dave and forcing him to move into the guest room to catch some sleep :) That's my story, and I'm sticking to it!

As for Bob, my pregnancy app has officially had enough, too ...it hasn't updated in the last two weeks as to what size he is equivalent to.  It still says 'Watermelon'!.  Apparently, according to this app, there is nothing in the universe as big as this baby is now.  At our doctor's appointment last week, our doctor assured us that the MOST they will let me go is one week overdue.  That means, between today and a week from Thursday, we will get to meet this little guy!  At this point, I am very keen on every feeling I am having.  Every cramp, every twinge, and every movement has turned into impending labor.  I am trying to keep it to myself, however, because I have a feeling the second that I say 'it's game time', Dave will shove me into the car so fast I won't know what hit me. 

But I sure as hell am ready.  I look at my pictures these last few weeks, and all I see is a whole bunch of swelling!  It used to be confined mostly to my feet and hands, but now, it's migrated to every other part of my body.  I feel like this guy:

                                

Those of you who have been pregnant before, know what this is like ... there's nothing you can do about it.  Your body is no longer your own, and every day there seems to be something else that you notice that makes your jaw drop and you say to yourself, "oh my god, is this going to be forever?? ... WILL I BE PREGNANT FOREVER??".  Those of you who haven't been pregnant before, here's your warning.  Say goodbye to your rockin' bod, because it's going to go away, no matter what you do to salvage it! 

Everyone asks about my 'birth plan', too, which I find to be funny.  Honestly, I don't have a 'birth plan' perse ... I am of the belief that whatever needs to happen to get this baby out safely is the right thing.  However, I have my own "Plan for Birth", which is what I'd LIKE to happen, and how I think this thing could go down in the most ideal way.  Here's what I'm thinking ...

I don't want to go into labor in the middle of the night.  I'd love to get a full night sleep, and go into labor around 930/10am :) Before going to the hospital, I'll take a shower, and have some food and make sure that we have everything we need.  We'll take Charlie to my parent's house, and then head down to the hospital.  I'll have the baby by 9pm, and then be all set for another night sleep :)  What do you think?  Possible???  C'mon Bob ... help mommy out on this one!  You definitely don't want to be born into a world where mommy hasn't slept or eaten in a significant time frame ... it's scary ... just ask your father ;)

Apologies for this week's picture ... but if I am looking tired and swollen with the biggest bags bags ever under my eyes, it's because ... I don't sleep, I am retaining water, and a half mile walk makes me feel like I ran a marathon.  If I EVER need motivation after Bob comes to get my body back, I will look at this picture. In fact, I'm considering putting it on my refrigerator ... anytime I go for a bite to eat, I'll look at it and pick the carrot sticks!!

Oh well ... you'll all have your turn ;)


How far along? 39 Weeks, 5 Days
Countdown: 2 Days!!
Total weight gain: I won't know for sure until my next doctor's appointment, which is tomorrow.  Perhaps I'll just skip this question forever :)
Maternity clothes? yup!  But still mixing in some non-maternity outfits. 
Stretch marks? No, and I do a serious inspection as often as I can!  Going HEAVY on the anti-stretch mark cream
Sleep: waking up a lot, but I am feeling mostly rested when I wake up in the morning
Best moment this week: finally being 99% finished with the nursery!
Miss Anything? being able to move without assistance ... and wine, sushi, and ham and cheese sandwiches!
Movement: Yes!!! lots! Lately, I swear I can feel the heel of his foot ... it's hilarious!
Food Cravings: nothing really ...
Anything making you queasy or sick: no!
Gender: BOY!
Labor Signs: Nope ... augh.
Symptoms: More "stabby stabby hoo-haa pains" ... or, as we now know it to be ... "lightning crotch" ... augh! Also, I have been nesting a bit.  I made banana-chocolate bread in order to salvage a few bananas that were soon to go bad.  The only problem is that neither Dave, nor I, actually like banana flavored desert.
Isabelly Button, In or Out? I think it's time to officially give in to Isabelly.  She isn't a traditional 'outtie', but you can definitely see her nose poking through my t-shirts these days.  Augh ...
Wedding rings on or off? very unfortunately off.  I can't wait to be able to wear them again!
Happy or Moody most of the time: happy! but definitely "done"!
Looking forward to: something ... ANYTHING happening!!!!

Tuesday, October 2, 2012

38 Weeks - The Waiting Game

Hi Everyone!
     38+ weeks, and counting down the days! It's funny, at this point, I feel like we are just waiting for something to happen.  I read about all of these symptoms that many women have at this time in their pregnancy, and I look at Dave and think, "hmmm ... what's wrong with me?".  Of course ... not excluding the symptoms mentioned in last week's post ;)  yikes, I've been trying to forget that post and leave it in my subconscious!

I'm happy to say, in the past week, we made huge strides in our nursery ... YAY!  The only thing we are waiting for is a small wallpaper border that we will put up on the wall.  We should have had this border in over a week ago, but it wouldn't match our crazy pregnancy journey if things worked out as planned, right?  Dave ordered the border and paid for 2 day shipping so we could get it in quickly.  After a week of waiting, Dave received an email from the business we purchased the border from.  Apparently, they received the border back to their store with a note from the post office.  The note said something along the lines of, "Sorry, I dropped this package into a bucket of water and it's been ruined".  WHAT? ARE YOU KIDDING?  How does that even happen??

Yup ... the liquid-activated adhesive on the border was obviously ruined.  At LEAST the post-office worker sent it back so we know what is going on.  Well, it wasn't as easy as sending us another border, because they were out of stock.  They had to reach out to the distributor who is sending us the border directly.  We should have it in tomorrow .... so I hope to have pictures for you next week! I can't tell you how much of a relief it is to have this done!

Anyway, as for me, I am officially working from home these days. WHAT A RELIEF this is.  Just knowing that I don't have to find uncomfortable clothes to fit into, makeup to put on, and traffic to deal with is so wonderful.  My last full day in the office was last Thursday, and the wonderful people I work with threw me a surprise baby shower!!  I was so touched! I've worked there only a short time ... approximately 6 months, so to have this outpouring of support from the group was just so overwhelming! They are such great people!

Overall, I am feeling good these days ... just VERY immobile.  I have turned into the stereotypical pregnant lady. Dave has been great, though.  He helps me to get up off the couch or the floor, and he's been pretty patient with me now that things take a little longer for me to get done ... which I know is difficult for him :) He even helps me take he nail polish off my toes since I can't reach them any longer :)  He didn't want me to post this picture, but ... what the heck :)


Look at how focused he is!  The caption to this picture is a quote he said while hard at work.  Dave said, "this is just like when I used to polish the nooks and crannies on the Harley!".  I laughed!  Hey, wherever he needs to transport himself in order to help me in my time of need, I'll take it!

As for symptoms ... still feeling the 'stabby stabby hoo-haa' pains, and guess what??? THERE IS A NAME for this symptom!  I recently read that pregnant women refer to it as ... oh my god, get this ... "LIGHTNING CROTCH". I am so not kidding:

* ""Lightning crotch." Yow! If you feel a sort of lightning bolt running up and down your legs (and in your crotch), don't freak out.  Baby is probably sitting pretty low in your pelvis, which means he's bumping against nerves down there -- including some pretty sensitive ones you might not know you had!"

I can't believe it!  But there it is, folks ... in black-and-white!  I'm not the only one :)  But ... ewe, I can't even type it without cringing!  I think I prefer my name for it better!

Today we went for another doctor's appointment.  Thankfully, my blood pressure was quite significantly reduced! So that is good! The doctor said, "whatever you've been doing this past week, keep doing it!" It looks like I stil haven't dilated, however.  My doctor said that they won't let me go over a week past my due date, so that means sometime between now, and October 18th, we will meet our little man!  This could take a while, though folks, because literally nothing is happening.  The waiting game is tough ... but I am trying to do whatever I can do enjoy these last few quiet weeks before our lives change forever!

At this point, Bob is no longer the size of a "freaking watermelon".  Nope ... he's graduated.  He is now the size of a "FREAKING PUMPKIN"!!! Is this some sort of joke?  Just in time for Halloween and the fall, I am growing a FREAKING PUMPKIN in my stomach.  Holy smokes.  That is just ... incredible.  I can't even wrap my mind around it ... until, of course, I look at myself in the mirror, and it all makes sense, somehow:



How far along? 38 Weeks, 5 Days
Countdown: 1 Weeks, 2 Days (or, 9 days!!!)
Total weight gain: at the doctor today, I gained 2lbs. That puts me at a total of 46lbs! Still not in the 50+ club, but who knows ... if this little guy stays put for a while, it may not be much longer before I join!
Maternity clothes? yup!  But still mixing in some non-maternity outfits. 
Stretch marks? No, thank god
Sleep: sleeping okay this past week.  I am still waking up quite a bit, but I am used to it at this point.
Best moment this week: my cousin, Jason's beautiful wedding!  And the wonderful shower my co-workers threw for me.
Miss Anything? being able to move without assistance ... and wine, sushi, and ham and cheese sandwiches!
Movement: Yes!!! lots! Lately, I swear I can feel the heel of his foot ... it's hilarious!
Food Cravings: nothing really ...
Anything making you queasy or sick: no!
Gender: BOY!
Labor Signs: Nope ... augh.
Symptoms: More "stabby stabby hoo-haa pains" ... or, as we now know it to be ... "lightning crotch" ... augh!
Isabelly Button, In or Out? no change ... mostly flat ... maybe a TAD out, but definitely doesn't look like an 'outie'.
Wedding rings on or off? very unfortunately off. 
Happy or Moody most of the time: happy! but definitely "done"!
Looking forward to: our wallpaper border to finish off the nursery, and of course ... meeting our little guy!!!!